I’m so forgetful….


“I’m so forgetful, I could hide my own Easter eggs.” I’m collecting humorous examples of forgetfulness. Care to contribute?

I used to have a plastic egg-shaped gizmo to put in the pot while boiling eggs. Its color changed, like a home pregnancy test, to announce when the eggs were done. Once I put a dozen eggs a pot and went upstairs to my office. I forgot about the stove until the smoke alarm sounded. Had to trash the pot – no eggs remained – and the plastic thingy. Kept the kitchen fan on for two days. Can you say ‘Stinky,’ boys and girls?”

Here are a few of my favorites, from my funniest friends.

“I’m so forgetful that once I dialed my mom on my cell phone, then put the phone on my lap and turned my attention back to the computer. I didn’t forget whom I called. I forgot that I made a call at all. Eventually I became aware of a high-pitched squeaking sound on my lap. When I looked down, I saw my phone. Picked it up. Mom!?!”

“My dad was so forgetful that he would forget he wasn’t in the office when he was at home. When the phone rang, he answered ‘parole board.’ Eventually my boyfriends stopped calling.”

“I’m so forgetful that once I left the oven on for three weeks. I put two bagels in the oven at 200 degrees, just to warm, before Patrick and I left for a three-week trip to Scandinavia. On the way to the airport, I remembered, but it was too late to turn back. I never said a thing to Patrick. When we got home, he raced for the mail, and I ran to the oven. The bagels had nearly disappeared, but the house was still standing.”

“I’m so forgetful that once I booked flights on two airlines for myself, my wife and my ex-wife to attend my son’s wedding across the country. I canceled my wife’s extra flight and my extra flight before the deadline, but I forgot about my ex’s until the bill came in. Then I had to take her to the ticket office so she could sign an affidavit that she was herself and that I could have the ticket credited to my account. She also made me buy her lunch.”

Me again: I had invited 12 people for dinner, and an hour before they were due to arrive, I lay down for a power nap. Then got up, showered, put on lipstick, dressed – and sprayed my hair with Windex. Frantic. No time to start all over. My hair shone brightly all evening.

Please share your forgetful moments in the “comment” space below.

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How to edit diplomatically

Austin motel: So close, yet so far out

Communication Briefings digested an article I wrote in the Philadelphia Business Journal and produced these tips about editing.

  • Confirm what the writer wants you to edit. Ask, for example: “Should I polish the lead?” “Do you want me to tell you how well you’ve organized the piece?” “Should I determine if you’ve supported your argument?”
  • Use green ink, not red, to suggest changes. Reason: Red means stop, so it can make writers resist your advice. But do use red or pink to praise a well-crafted sentence or paragraph.
  • Consider making your advice look even more like a suggestion, not an edict, by using pencil. Another plus: You can more easily change your comments.
  • Teach while editing, explaining why you make most changes. It’s the only way to create better writers.
  • Sit next to writers, not across from them, when you meet to discuss their work. Reason: This nonverbal signal says you’re there to help, not command.
  • Stop often and ask questions such as: “Do you see what I mean?” “Can you agree with that?” “What do you think we should do to fix that problem?”

Do you see what I mean?

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How should I write this? Part 1

Need cash? ATM machine inside
Q. Can you please differentiate between these words and phrases?
A. Sure.

  • ATM machine. That phrase is redundant, of course, because ATM stands for automatic teller machine.
  • backward/backwards. Backward, an adjective or adverb, refers to a direction in place or time. Prefer the word without the s. The word backwards means slow or delayed.
  • beside/besides. Beside usually means next to. Besides means in addition to, as in “Besides the Philadelphia Orchestra concert, the travelers attended 2 plays.”
  • breath/breadth. When you breathe deeply, you take a breath. When you measure the length and width of a desk, you also measure the breadth.
  • complement/compliment. Give a boss a compliment on a job well done. Or say that his tie complements (goes well with) his shirt. (Complementary colors and angles have a relationship.)
  • criteria/criterion. If you want to hire someone who can edit your manuscripts and budget your time, you have 2 criteria. If you need someone willing to make coffee all day every day, you have only a single criterion.
  • data. In the olden days – from the Holy Roman Empire until the Computer Age – data was a plural Latin word, and the singular form was datum. Now use the word data to refer to one or more bits of information.
  • each and every one of you. There are redundancies in this phrase. Since each person you are addressing is a single individual, trying reducing those 6 words to 1: you.

I hope each and every one of you enjoys this post. Read about more common mistakes.

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Philadelphia speech

Portrait of Salvador Dali at Philadelphia Museum of Art

Having re-branded myself as WriterPhiladelphia, I consider it my civic duty to share these Philadelphia-isms: Words and pronunciations unique to Philadelphia. For a pronunication guide, watch any Rocky movie.

The newer you are to Area Code 215, the more valuable you will find this glossary.

  • Ack a me: Popular food store.
  • Arthur-ritis: Painful joint affliction.
  • Cha doon?: What are you doing?
  • Crowns: Crayons.
  • Del Val: Extended Fluffya suburbs.
  • Downashore: Summertime destination in Jersey.
  • Fluffya: Speedy way to pronounce Philadelphia.
  • Fly like an Iggle: A song recorded in 1976 by Steve Miller.
  • Mayan and urine: Mine and yours.
  • Meetcha at da Iggle: Traditional meeting place at Macy’s Center City.
  • School kill or sure kill: A river and a speedway.
  • Schuylkill Punch: Yummy wooder that we drink.
  • Sum eye gatt: Something like that.
  • Sum eye giss: Something like this.
  • Thirsty: The day before Friday.
  • Wooder eyes: A summer treat, usually called a snow cone.
  • Wooder: What we drink.
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Interviewing for publication: Part 2

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Entice your subject to talk.

6. During the interview, your first task is to make the subject trust you so that s/he opens up and divulges what you hope to learn. To do this, you might:

      • Indicate you have done some homework and already know something about her/him. You know that she is a zealous fan of her college football team or that he often volunteers at Philadelphia’s Center for Literacy.
        Mention an acquaintance you have in common.
      • Try bonding: “You’re from South Philadelphia? I grew up in North Philly. We’re practically neighbors.”
      •  Find out if s/he typically wears blue shirts, red ties or pink necklaces. Dress to match.
      • Compliment her/his expertise or standing. Commend his/her work/book/insights or praise his/her leadership style.
      • Try getting your subject drunk. This tip is not my style, since half a glass of wine is my limit, but some writers swear by it. (NOTE: Not suited for the subject’s office.)
      • Volunteer your services. Former Inquirer sports editor Jay Searcy couldn’t land an interview with Buddy Ryan when Ryan first came to Philadelphia to coach the Eagles. Ryan still owned a horse farm in Kentucky. Searcy offered to work on the farm for a few days. First he flew to Oklahoma and interviewed Ryan’s mother, sisters and teachers. Then he worked side-by-side with Ryan for a few days, obviously gaining exclusive quotations. Years of easy access to Ryan followed.
      • On a smaller scale, if you meet your subject at home, help prepare your own coffee, then wash your own mug. By standing next to him/her in her kitchen, you are equalizing yourself, making your questions seem more friendly.

7. Open with easy questions, including, if you are not reading a resume, the spelling of the last name. (I once failed to ask Mr. Smith how he spelled Smith and caught heck from my editor when Mr. Smyth complained. Totally my fault.)

    • Pose a few easy, expected questions. For the CEO of your company, ask about recent hires or the newest reorganization.
    • As you move in more serious directions, consider the roundabout “What’s this I hear about….?” This way, you don’t appear to take responsibility for the challenge. Or “People have told me that….” Or “The elevator operator doesn’t think you know his name.”
    • Consider asking if the person has a trait or ability that no one knows about.
    • BUT. Experienced writers warn against asking questions whose answers you don’t know. Years ago a reporter interviewed the executive director of the Philadelphia Lesbian and Gay Task Force. He wrote: “Don’t ask Rita Addessa about her childhood, or her hobbies, or her favorite flavor jelly bean or the name of her cat. “I hate fluffy stories,” she explains, “and I don’t like talking about myself.”
    • Try, try again. In 1992, when Frank Sinatra performed 6 concerts in London, he refused all interviews. But Rebecca Hardy, a reporter for the London Daily Mail, slipped a list of questions under his hotel suite door, and he answered.

Questions?

Click to read more about interviewing.

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